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2nd Month of Bliss
Friday G-d willing we'll celebrate our 2nd month anniversary. I say "G-d-willing" because it never ceases to strike me these days what a miracle and gift it is to be married to Daniel R. Sass (of Sass Video Productions, formerly lawyer in Portland, somewhere in the United States of America).
It's a rather strange feeling. Just last Shavuot – one year ago – I was chomping my way through a sugar-free polystyrene cheesecake with the 90% diabetic community in Netanya, mum included. I didn't even have a sniff of a boyfriend, let alone a serious relationship. Everything seemed hopeless, indeed was, until a few months later when I met aforementioned Sassy man. Today, I can't believe how happy I am, a feeling that terrifies the living daylights out of me! (So Jewish –ed.!)
So what's happened in this second month of marital bliss? I'm still just as deliriously excited at being Emma Sass (or "EmmaS ass" for those who haven't yet worked it out) and every time I hear the name I feel suddenly more grown up; like I've commanded more respect, that in someway, covering my hair with a cute little Winnie-the-Pooh hat (have you ever?...) makes me more "adult."
It is of course a mindset rather than a name change. Good friends have noticed changes. I was always a homebody but now I'm able to potter around the house for someone, not just myself (this is of course helped by the new Tupperware I acquired at bridal shower). Friends with kids marvel at how no matter what they do, their boys will be boys and the girls, well, girls. For example, one friend with 4 girls who then had a boy, claimed that on giving the boy a doll, he threw it on the floor and spat at it; a behaviour never witnessed in any of her girls.
And so it's been with me. In as much as I feel like a strong, independent woman, I simply adore the roles to which we've both cleaved. Daniel is incredibly strong (really, would I've married a pushover?), together, and capable and is forever putting up hooks and engaging in all sorts of miscellaneous "bits" (for want of a more technical word) around the house. Although I'm no gourmet chef, once I find something Daniel likes to eat (which isn't that difficult; he's almost as non-discriminatory as Gal), I'm constantly going into the studio with it: be it a peeled carrot; some leftover ice-cream topping I've used to make chocolate balls, or some new pretzels I've found in the store. (If anyone notices a major weight loss in hubby, please feed him real food…!)
The real point here, is what I've noticed 2 months into being married is how we've both naturally taken on our pre-determined roles as man and woman – almost back to caveman style – and we're loving it! For two individuals who've lived alone for so long, it's been anthropologically fascinating.
Much of it comes from the fact that neither of us pressure the other to "conform." One of Daniel's qualities I really admire is his self-awareness and capacity to make himself happy; he doesn't expect anyone else to do it. Hence I'm delighted to do something to make him happy and peeled carrots in the middle of the day do a little… although he'll probably tell you he'd prefer a new gadget or some meat!!!
With thanks for yet another glorious month…
Emma
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